I have been really seeking to know God more in my life, to know the one who is my friend and Abba. Today he drew me back to the Love (Agape) verse and said look at both sides of this coin today and you will better see me. So below you will find my chart of what Agape love looks like and what it is not. I used the Greek definitions and also used a thesaurus for the opposites of the words given in the verse.
One thing that I realized is that some of the words that described what it is not were attributes that I was still believing about Abba. This was such a beautiful moment of Daddy showing me lies that I was believing about who he was. It was a beautiful answer to my desire to know Him more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
I Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[a] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
|Love is:||Love is not:|
|Patient: long-tempered, refusing to retaliate with anger||Agitated: violent, frustrated, intolerant, unwilling, loud|
|Kind: gentle, pleasant, good||Unkind: Quick to anger, harsh, antagonistic, discourteous, rude|
|Not jealous/envious: calm, content, undoubting, confident, trusting, unresentful||Jealous: envy (rivalry, spite, malice, resentment), covet|
|Not boasting: humble, modest||Boastful: show off, brag, exaggerate, blow one’s own horn|
|Not arrogant: humble, modest, meek||Arrogant: aloof, bossy, smug, assuming, haughty|
|Does not act unbecomingly: humble, kind||Unbecomingly-arrogant, bossy, cocky, pompous, vain, disdainful, know it all|
|Does not seek its own-doesn’t seek himself/herself, considers others, takes the time to see them||Seek its own: Self-centered (egotistical, selfish, self-absorbed), self-seeking (boasting, bragging, egocentric)|
|Is unprovoked||Provoked: incensed, aggravated, enraged, irritated, angry, mad|
|Does not take into account a wrong: does not charge with a wrong, does not conclude a wrong, sees the truth in the person||Judges, charges with wrongs, concludes wrongs, refuses to see the truth in the person|
|Does not rejoice in unrighteousness: the opposite of justice,||Rejoices in injustice|
|Rejoices with the truth: reality||Does not rejoice with the truth, God’s reality|
|Bears all things: cover, conceal endure patiently, to carry, transfer, take||Doesn’t bear: fail, lose, avoid, refuse|
|Believes all things: have faith in, trust, accept, consider, regard, trust, understand||Doesn’t believe: abandon, deny, discard, dismiss, disregard, forget, neglect, ignore, reject|
|Hopes all things: believes, assumes, cherish, expect, confide||Doesn’t Hope: abandon, distrust, doubt, forsake, fear|
|Endures all things: remain behind (as if standing with you), stand my ground (standing with the other), bears hardship, withstands, weathers||Doesn’t endure: disallow, halt, hide, refuse, reject, run away, deny|
Many times, in religion we are told that we ourselves are responsible for producing this type of love for others in our lives. That brothers and sisters is an impossible feat. None of us in our own will power or strength can manifest this type of love in our lives. This type of love is a gift from Daddy to us. It is a gift of His Spirit that lives inside of us. (Galatians 5:22) It is not something that we bring forth by self-effort and works, it is simply something we believe and receive. It is in that receiving, his love can overflow out of us onto those around us. We love because He first loved us, but we have to understand and experience first hand what Daddy’s love really is, what it really looks like, feels like, tastes like in our own lives. We have to be willing to receive this beautiful gift from Him alone and to be able to do that we have to believe we are worthy of His love.
If your love for others doesn’t look like what we saw above be of good cheer, all we have to do is believe and receive, to allow ourselves to be loved by our good father and out of that we will see the fruit of His Spirit manifesting itself effortlessly out of us. We never were called to create the fruit simply to bear it. He is the vine, we are the branches, his love flows into us and out of that relationship we bear His fruit. If you struggle to believe you are worthy of such a love as this, ask Daddy to persuade you of the truth. Ask Him to show you just how worthy he sees you, then be open to what he has to say. Even if you can’t believe it yet, he is a great persuader and it is his joy to persuade you until you can believe.
Daddy I thank you for each and every person who will read this post about you. I pray that you will give them a new perspective on how they view you. I pray that any misperception of who you are will be highlighted and you will reveal the truth of who you are to them, that it will resonate with Your Spirit in them. Amen.